Random Tuesday Thoughts...

Oh, once again it’s Tuesday which means that according to Keely, I’m allowed to babble on about anything and everything that pops into my head!

This is one of my favorite days of the week to get out all that is going on in this head...and we all know as females...our mind never stops...

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After a board meeting last night and learning how much money my girls' school district DOES NOT have...it angers me a bit to think about how many privledges our prisoners are given.  For one thing, they can actually get a full college degree off of our tax money, have a sex change, a heart transplant, etc.  Whoever is the one who doles out the tax money, shouldn't it be obvious where the money should go first.  Our prisoners are getting a better education than our children.  ...this could be a whole post in itself...

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Wondering how I am going to lose any weight not changing anything that I am currently doing.  Hmmm...not very realistic, but it does make me happy to dream about it for a moment. 

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Life insurance...what a worth while monthly payment.  You can be here today and gone tomorrow...knowing that my family would be taken care of if anything ever happened to me gives me peace of mind.

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My brother-n-law Mikey found out he and his girlfriend of 4  years are expecting a baby!  So super excited but I'm trying to figure out how I am going to slyly have them sign papers stating that I have partial custody and get that baby at least once a week.  I'll start working on that right now.  Can't wait!

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Black Friday...I have heard that they are starting it in some stores right now...this gives me a little anxiety not knowing which ones and where.  I usually just have to have anxiety about it for one day after Thanksgiving, but now it won't go away.  Perhaps they could have a Black Friday website that gives us a heads up!

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Did you know that if you have a speeding ticket and you mail in the amount due...but you pay $1 over what it says is due, they will send you a check for that $1 and as long as you never cash that check, it can't go on your record because the transaction has to be complete before they can report it.  For you speed demons out there...

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Just got a call from the school that one of my girls fell on her knee real bad and is having trouble walking...I'm out!

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Marriage Retreat...Final

So the weekend is coming to an end here in beautiful South Lake Tahoe.  We are so blessed to have been in such a breath taking place. 

I will sum up our time for you...
When we got here we didn't have a clue what to expect.  To be honest with you, I personally thought they were going to try to get to the root of our problems and tell us what needed to change and what we could fix.  Phew...that's not how it went!  I don't know if I was ready to hear all the things I should be doing differently. 

So the first night we were greeted by an absolutely amazing couple of faith.  They gave their testimonial and then really shared with us tools that we could take home with us to work on our marriage.  That was awesome!

The next day was just as awesome...we really got in to more depth in what the bible says about marriage and he broke that down in to how we could go home and incorporate it into our daily lives.   Then his wife spoke and she was just a doll.  They were so real and so candid that it made the whole weekend very comfortable.

They also talked about parenting and how to ask your children for forgiveness.  If you are wrong and you have done something wrong, admit you're wrong and ask your children to forgive you.  I loved that...and don't ever go to bed angry...or with conflict.  Work things out with your spouse and with your kids.  Give everything to the Lord and it will all work out.

Then yesterday we had a couple of hours to ourselves where Adam and I sat with the pastors and asked several questions that have just been in our minds for a long time.  It really taught us how to go home and implement all that they had shared with us.

And lastly, we have our church service this morning and then are on our way home.

What did I get out of it...I have a renewed spirit in our marriage through Jesus.  I let walls down that only God could help me do and I am so proud of us and so thankful that we had this opportunity.  We are going to do this once every two years to continue to work on our faith, our marriage and ourselves. 

Remember...happy wife, happy life!  Amen!

Multiples & More Question of the Week...

The Multiples and More Question of the week...and you don't have to be a Mother of Multiples to participate...we encourage everyone to!

Name 5 small successes in your life from the past week. (and yes, laundry counts!)

This past week I was proud to have accomplished a few things...

1. We painted our bar in our house from a hideous purple to a beautiful tan...looks 150% better!!
2. I put all my girls' clothes away in their room...not just putting them away...organizing, color coordinating, sorting, getting rid of the stuff that doesn't fit, etc.  And we went through ALL of their books and put them in their book shelf.  This was a major accomplishment. :)
3. I started implementing job charts for my girls that really have worked well.  They are getting to add up all of their accomplishments for the last week and get paid for them tomorrow...then they will really LOVE their job charts.
4. I became an official "tweeter".  I have not ever been interested in getting a Twitter account and a really good friend of mine pushed me to the dark side.  I have enjoyed it so far and am really starting to figure things out with it, thanks to all who gave such good advice on my Aloha Friday questions.
5. For the first time in almost 8 years...my husband and I went to a marriage retreat through our church.  This was something that we knew we needed but didn't know how to do it.  It was definitely stepping out of our comfort zone but putting our relationship, the most important gift we can give our children, first!!  Praise God for all that we have learned and accomplished this weekend.  We vow to go every two years to a marriage retreat and recommend you all do so too! 

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Marriage Retreat...Part 2

You will all be glad to know that I wasn't thrown under the bus tonight...however there is a day and a half left so you just never know.

Tonight was absolutely amazing!  God is good guys!  He is the author of our lives...he knows what we're gonna do before we do it and works in our lives everyday! 

Adam and I have been together for 15 years...we were high school sweethearts and then we got married in 2002 and have been married almost 8 years.  The first 2 years of our marriage was amazing...then when we had our girls...that was amazing too, but a different amazing.  You see we started being parents and stopped being married...bare with me here.  We put so much in to our girls that we never had anything left for each other.  We don't fight, we don't argue unless things don't go my way.  We are best friends who have been growing apart emotionally for 6 years. 

We have seen it happening and have tried to make it right but when you have been doing something for so long, how do you get back to where you started, do you know what I'm saying? 

We quit taking time for each other and everything was all about our babies.  However the best gift you can give your kids is your relationship with your spouse.  Knowing that is what brought us to this retreat. 

God is good...he put us here by divine appointment and we know that.  The speaker is an identical twin...I love that.  (I will be talking to him tomorrow about what his parents did right and what he wished they would change and I will be sharing that on a different post for the twin moms out there).

We are all designed for greatness and with God, you can achieve that greatness.  I let my guard down tonight you guys, which is something that I have kept up for at least the last 3 to 4 years.  Guarding my heart from being hurt because there was nothing being put in to our relationship.  Tonight, through God, I let that down. 

I am so excited to share with you guys how the rest of the weekend goes...and for those of you who are hoping this is going to be like a motion picture...I am afraid that I am probably going to let you down.  I am here to work on myself, my marriage and my life not just for me but for my family!  That's what this is going to be about.

Tomorrow is going to be amazing and I can't wait to get back to you on how!

Marriage Retreat...Part 1

We just got here to our marriage retreat through our church.  You see when we signed up for it, we really didn't need it, just thought it would be fun.  Then the months went by and it's amazing how God works cuz we can really use it now.  Both of us are emotionally, mentally and physically beat and don't do a whole lot to try to work on our relationship. 

So here we sit...just got here and are waiting for dinner.  I was excited to have found a hot spot to be able to access the internet.  I want to blog about this because I have a feeling it's going to be a weekend of throwing Kandi under the bus comedy and tears! 

We are in beautiful South Lake Tahoe and are right on the lake...I am so so thankful for my husband to even be excited about doing something like this.  I know most husbands wouldn't even think of it.

I will keep you posted on the progress of the weekend...I am not sure what to expect but was telling Adam (the husband) that I don't want to be thrown under the bus about everything.  He laughed and laughed and said this is a "Marriage Retreat" he if feeling like it is going to be very positive and give us tools to take home with us.  Myself, I thought it was going to be a session of getting to the bottom of our issues...hence me being thrown under the bus. 

I find myself a very hard working, strong willed, ouspoken delightful person however...there may be times every single day  that I am hard to live with. :)  That's why we're here!

Wish us luck and stay tuned because throughout the weekend you will also hear from my dear husband, Adam.  He said he will tell me what I can type and would love to contribute to this segment of my blog.  Gotta love that guy!

Home Makeover...

There are those who have an eye for decorating and then there's me...I have an eye for nice stuff but not where it goes.  My husband and I have been a really good team in life for many reasons...one of those being that he has the eye for where things go and I buy the stuff that goes in the house.  It has worked out for many, many years...well if you must know since we were 17 yrs old.  LOL
 
Until now...we just moved into our new house and well there is just a way about this house that I know that our previous HGTV wannabe but not qutie cutting it techniques are really not going to work.  One of my best friends offered to come over and tell me what my house needed....and boy did she!

She brought her mom and they got to work...next thing you know my furiture was being moved, the kitchen was being torn apart and everything was being put away off of the counter and in to the pantry.  The pictures were coming off of the walls and going on to new walls...it was crazy.  Then like the Tazmanian devil stopped spinning...it all came together.  It was so awesome!  My house looks awesome!

Then on to the bedroom...the same thing.  She was amazing. 

My mom came over and wanted to take a peak...mind you my mom already lived in the Mother-In-Law unit for about 6 months before we bought the house...that's actually how we learned of it.  So I wanted them to know where I had come from and they went to my moms house.  Now her house is beautiful and she has beautiful things...A TON OF BEAUTIFUL THINGS!  My mom is a collector and she has so many little trinkets...you would die she could open up a store.  They came back and were blown away at not only how cute the house was...but how much stuff she had.

So at the end of the day...I was so proud of the turn around in my house.  It definitely needed it and we are all settled in. 

Can't wait until she comes back again...stay tuned!

Aloha Friday...Tweeting

In Hawaii, Aloha Friday is the day that we take it easy and look forward to the weekend. So I thought that on Fridays I would take it easy on posting, too. Therefore, I’ll ask a simple question for you to answer. Nothing that requires a lengthy response.

Here is my question this week:

Do you tweet and if so, what advice do you have for a new tweeter?

One of my dear friends brought me to the dark side...Twitter. :)  This was an area that I had never tried on for size.  So as of last night, I am an official "tweeter". 

When I get something new like this...I HAVE to figure it out.  I'm not a big fan of being a part of something and having no idea of how to fully utilize it.  After a little while today I feel that I am on the right track.  Still a LOT to learn but definitely the right track.

Feel free to follow me...my twitter username is:  www.twitter.com/twinspirationz

Happy Friday friends!